This is for a friend. But you can read it too.

There's going to be a time when it will stop hurting, regardless of if we find someone to replace them first. And that time will come. I promise. And the sadness you feel right now will be just a memory to you.

I think the most important thing to learn is to love yourself first. Absolutely. To value your qualities, your talents, your personality and the many different things that make you unique and beautiful to others. You need to understand that you do not need someone else to truly make you a love able person. That on your own, you are worth just as much as if you were with someone.

It is important to make sure that there is no reason, no subconscious thought in your mind, that says you need a man to be complete. You should not feel that someone else has the means to deem you enough, worth it, or a well rounded person. You are you before that someone else comes along. And everything that you are should be important and meaningful to you regardless of a significant others presence in your life. To be of value in a relationship, we need to value ourselves first.

It may be hard to let go because there are still parts of your mind that feel as though the way you are viewed in a relationship is superior to the way you are viewed as a singular person. Which is not true. You can better the person you are in a wholesome, loving relationship, once you have grown as person who loves themselves as they are, and believes themselves to be of worth on their own. To have that humble kind of confidence is the only way you can best contribute to a relationship.

There is something better coming. This is learning. These are experiences we need to build ourselves, to get to know ourselves and what it is we should strive for. Just because they may find their significant other first means nothing. It means absolutely nothing about you as a person. It does not mean we are worth anything less and it does not mean we deserve anything less from anyone else.

Did you hear me? It does not mean we are worth anything less and it does not mean we deserve anything less from anyone else.

You deserve a relationship where you are respected, where there is a solid foundation of mutual respect, love, and appreciation that will never falter. That is what you deserve. And that is possible to attain and it is out there for you. You do not get only one shot. You will be loved, to the fullest extent, and you will love back. And it will be a kind of love that you haven't been able to experience before, because it will be returned whole-heartedly.

We are young. We are learning. We are growing. And all of those things are necessary to become who we need to become.

"You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, but there is still going to be someone who hates peaches."

They were not peach lovers. We do not need men in our lives who are not peach lovers. Because we are damn good peaches.

I love you. I love you so much and I miss you with my whole heart and soul. I will be home in 4 months. I'm coming for you!

MP